#LipglossmaffiaGuide To Becoming A More Awesome Person…

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I get nervous when I think of making new friends. This might come as a surprise to most people because of how easy they think I make it look. Well, a few years ago, I worried a lot about it. Would people like me? Am I cool enough? Do I fit it in? Would I find people who get me? I realised I was wasting my time stressing over trivial issues, I mean, really, who wouldn’t want to be my friend? I’m just awesome.(#SelfAppreciationTime)

I can’t remember what I was watching, but it was a movie about friends and this girl got magically cloned and she didn’t even want to be friends with herself. That was the day I said, I am going to like me first before I extend it to anyone. Worked like a dream! Have you ever asked yourself; would you be friends with you if you really knew you? Would you date/marry you? Would you employ yourself? Think about it though. Don’t lie to yourself, that’s the worst. Do you even trust you?

I like to examine myself all the time, and I have come to love all my quirks and my flaws. Would I date me? Sure. Honestly, I think I would make an awesome partner for myself, since that can’t happen, I have to choose from people who are not me(so depressing). We are about to start a new year, wouldn’t it be great if you just stopped with resolutions and actually start working on making you the best version of yourself. I have created my #LipglossMaffiaGuide(which is a combination of life lessons stored {found online} over the years) to help you on your journey (this is also my solution for World Peace). Print this list and put it on your wall, in your wallet, everywhere!

Here goes:

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1. Learn to be okay with not being okay.

2. Learn to have conversations that do not consist of lambasting someone else, especially when that someone is you.

3. Give the most kindness to those who seem like they least deserve it.

4. Learn to define and describe people without initially reaching for their sex or appearance as key adjectives.

5. Realize that perspective determines everything.

6. Understand that when something upsets you, it’s striking a nerve of truth.

7. Understand that when someone upsets you, the best thing to do is understand where they’re coming from.

8. Know that no matter how far you’ve come, there’s no point at which it’s appropriate to remain lazy or stagnant.

9. Be radically, sincerely honest. Be shocked at how deeply you can connect with people when you are.

10. Know that if you want to have a conversation about something that upsets you, insulting someone is only the by-product of your own defenses, and will ultimately raise theirs as well, it will not open lines of understanding and communication.

11. Realize that selflessness is one of the most predominantly wonderful qualities a person can have.

12. Learn to actually feel happy for other people.

13. Go into everything with the knowing that you don’t know it all, and that every experience is valid.

14. Invest in extra towels, donate what you don’t use, and keep extra Panadol on you because people tend to need it and be without it rather frequently.

15. Call your siblings/friends more.

16. Be present in what’s at hand. You owe it to the people in your life and to the things you’ve built for yourself.

17. Understand that letting go and moving on means very humbly and slowly gesturing in the direction of which you’d like to reach.

18. Get dressed everyday, just for yourself.

19. Give better goodbyes.

20. Carve out time to do nothing but be with yourself.

21. Boldly make yourself your first priority. You’ll do everything better when you do.

22. Stop shaming yourself for doing things that are perfectly, normally human, but happen to be deemed imperfect in society.

23. Read. A lot.

24. Reach out to people, open your heart, and watch how eagerly they jump in and do the same.

With fingers crossed I hope this touches you somehow, at least a few of them:-)

Catch you soon…x

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