How To Fall In Love By Asking These 36 Questions…
This might seem a bit weird. Can asking a couple questions actually make two people fall in love? Well, I don’t know, but i’m always up for a challenge. Those 36 questions were the brainchild of psychologist Arthur Aron. In examining what increases human intimacy, he came up with 36 questions for couples to ask one another to build closeness — not just romantically, but between family and friends.
We all know i’m a sucker for love and i want everyone to try it! It’s a good exercise to try though; whether you will fall in love with someone or not is debatable but scientists believe that after these 36 questions you will most likely grow affection for your partner, or whoever you tried it with.
Here are the 36 questions, I divided it into three sets-for tea breaks, lol. The study advices “the best way for you to get close to your partner is for you to share with them and for them to share with you”. After answering the questions, the participants are supposed to sit and look into one another’s eyes for four minutes (It’s an important part!) Go figure…
1.Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2.Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3.Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4.What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5.When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6.If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7.Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8.Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9.For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10.If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11.Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12.If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
1.If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
2.Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
3.What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
4.What do you value most in a friendship?
5.What is your most treasured memory?
6.What is your most terrible memory?
7.If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
8.What does friendship mean to you?
9.What roles do love and affection play in your life?
10.Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
11.How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
12.How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
1.Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
2.Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
3.If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
4.Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
5.Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
6.When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
7.Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
8.What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
9.If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
10.Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
11.Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
12.Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
After this, look at each others’ eyes for four straight minutes. If you are still confused, enjoy this video that I found on YouTube because, I’m really fascinated by this.
Please if you try this exercise, let me know okay? Pretty please. I want to know how the experience was. And yes, I’m definitely going to try it!
May the force be with us!